HAPPY CNY EVERYONE!

ytd was CHU YI

went to grandma's house...not many ppl were there yet. had some fun comparing heights with my cousins. leonard had an exquisite hairstyle! it was gold and bright blue...he looked like he was representing some country in the olympics. haha

wenshi...i think she lost some weight. must be the stress in school. i tried to sell my funfair tix...was calling and forcing ee anna and ee jenny to buy. stupid leonard refused to buy any. i thought he would be the most spontaneous!! hurt my little brittle heart. *sobs* hahaha. made a real good deal with wenshi. she buy my funfair tix and i'll buy hers. haha ten bucks each. no gain, no loss. PERFECT.

ee anna promised she would buy. so haha i need to remind her. then when clement gorgor comes back must pester him to buy too!

then later in the afternoon, went with leonard, wenshi, wenyi and my sis to watch i not stupid too. rmb leonard was grumbling because he was the only guy out with a ton of girls. i borrowed his jacket because it was so much warmer than the only my sis brought. and leonard was laughing at how huge it was on me. horrible horrible. the movie was so touching! we girls were crying. basically this movie is about how some parents treat their children (parents who work all day and have no time for their kids except to tuck them into bed and buy them whatever they want watch out! this movie is perfect for u!) sometimes as parents, (okay i'll say "we" because i might be a parent someday too) we must understand the needs of our child. do we reallie think that material is all they need? i noe this is all very cliche. i noe most ppl have heard this before. but a family is not a family without warmth. this is a very important point, and it is well illustrated by this part in the movie where they were celebrating fathers' day. the younger son drew a card for his father. on the card was a portrait of his father, all coloured black. his father enquired why was it that he was coloured black, and the boy's reply was, "pa u stand there in the dark." (only the father's silhouette shows) "see isnt that how it looks like on the card? that's all i rmb of u. because that;s what i see" although this is real funny, but it has a profound side to it. it isnt just laughs. these children are pathetic. and sad to say, there are many of these in singapore. many many. yes they may be rich, they may have all they want. but to them, their family is nothing. to quote tom in the movie, "i understood that my home is only a place for sleeping". its reallie sad.

another thing is attention. fine if u dun have the time to spend with ur kids. but u must divert any quality time left of ur busy 24 hours to love ur children! learn to appreciate them! that's one of the messages conveyed to us in the movie. the parents in the movie dun give a damn abt their children. they dun care abt their qualities. too negative, i think. they should learn to look on the good side of things, and learn to see the beauty in their children. children are beautiful because they are simply children. they have their innocence, vulnerability, which requires ur attention and love, as well as respect. in one of the scenes (the fathers' day one) the older son gave his father a shaver for his birthday. instead of praising him for his thoughtfulness, and thanking him for the care, his mother chided him, saying, "we already have one at home, why buy another one?" i was quite taken aback by this statement. the mother in the movie has reallie gone too far, i thought. luckily, that statement was saved slightly by the father's comment, "its okay i can use it anyway".

another thing abt some parents is that they care too much abt results. like the way the movie started with the boy narrating "i get band 1 for every subject but my mother nvr praised me. instead, she asks why i didn get higher marks" (smth like that) this is seriously wrong. i noe this society is competitive, i noe results mean nearly everything in singapore. but that's only for the academic parts. how abt character? doesnt it weigh more? again, this leads back to the appreciation part. sometimes, character builds on love. if u praise ur child, they learn to praise others. if u love them, they learn to give love! what u do to them, they follow suit and do the same to other ppl! like in a part of the movie, the parents complained that their children only answer "mm ah orh" back to them. yet when the grandma cam downstairs to talk to the parents, the father answered the same way back to the grandma "mm ah orh" the way u act affects the way ur child acts! its a vicious cycle! rmbring one of ghandi's quotes: watch ur thoughts, they become words, watch ur words, they become actions, watch ur actions, they become ur character, watch ur character, it becomes ur destiny! thus as ur actions determine ur child's actions, and his actions determine his destiny, it means that indirectly or directly, u shape ur child's destiny! so SET A GOOD EXAMPLE AND HELP SHAPE HIS DESTINY WELL!

i love this movie like crazy; it has brought me lots of tears and laughter, and it also has important values which we must all heed. i was trying to think of improvements for this movie, but...i just carn think of any. hahaha. i love love this movie!!!

CHU ER

aunties came over today! haha had a nice nice chat with my shenshen. she's reallie nice. dunno why but we just click. =)

learnt ***'s plight today. i'm reallie upset when i read the entry. i'm so sorrie...made me want to cry so much. haish. how could i not noe. how could i not sense it? how could i not sense how upset *** was? oh god. i'm such a failure. grahhhhhh.

tmr going ********** to buy stuff. haish shall learnt all abt *** tmr. shall bring some goodies to comfort *** too. love u honey. rest well.

goodnight

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